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SALT LAKE CITY--(BUSINESS WIRE)--Sept. 26, 2007--The relationship that parents forge with their children during their teen years often determines how close they will be for the rest of their lives. Sadly, it seems that today's parents and teens sometimes experience great difficulty in getting along with each other. Where does the problem start? Does the problem lie with the teen, the parent or both?

"With each complaint you have about your parents, you have a choice to make," said Sean Covey, author of The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make. "You can let it drive you insane and lash out, or you can find ways to cope. If you are struggling with things your parents do, remember to focus on what you can control. You can't make choices for your parents. You can only make choices for yourself. And, just as they do things that make you crazy, you do things that drive them nuts."

Covey received correspondence from and interviewed thousands of teens all over the world about the most important decisions they will make during their teen years. He also received feedback from them about what their parents do that drives them crazy. Covey gives suggestions in his book to teens to help them overcome issues they have with their parents. Also, parents may download a free copy of Covey's The Ultimate Parent Survival Guide by visiting www.6decisions.com. Listed below are the five most common complaints from teens about their parents and advice from Covey to help them cope:

    --  My parents are always comparing me! - It's hard not to compare
        yourself to that girl with the perfect hair or that guy with
        the 4.0 GPA. Remember, just as you struggle, so do your
        parents. For some strange reason and with the best of
        intentions, parents think that comparing you to someone else
        will motivate you. As every teen knows, it does the opposite.
        If you find yourself being compared by your parents try doing
        the following:

        --  Try not to take it personally. Remember how it feels and
            make a resolution not to do it to your kids when you are a
            parent.

        --  Make your parents aware of how you feel. The next time
            your mom or dad compares you to a sibling or a friend, say
            something like, "Mom, Dad, you know what? It really hurts
            when you compare me to so and so. I'm different from so
            and so, and I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't compare me
            to them anymore."

    --  My parents are never satisfied! - If this is how you feel,
        don't start thinking that your parents don't love you. Maybe
        this is the way they were raised. They may be very proud of
        you and not know how to show it. When you become a parent,
        it's not like you get a user's manual on how to be awesome at
        it.

One thing you can try is to point out all of the good stuff you are doing. For example, you might say: "Yeah, I can always do better, Dad. But getting three A's last term is pretty good and it's a lot better than last year."

    --  My parents are embarrassing! - So, your parents are
        embarrassing. Or maybe they're out of touch when it comes to
        fashion and music. So what? They're usually very much in touch
        when it comes to important things, like how to bounce back
        after you've just been dumped from a relationship.

In case you haven't noticed, parents have quite a bit more experience than you do. If you were to add up your mom and dad's age you would find together they have double or triple the experience that you have. Remember, every other teen feels the same way you do and one day your kids will be just as embarrassed of you.

    --  My parents are overprotective! - In most cases, so-called
        overprotective parents simply care a lot and show it through
        lots of rules and wanting to know everything. Try not to get
        hung up about having too many rules. After all, if you had to
        choose, don't you think you'd rather have parents who seem to
        care too much than parents who don't seem to care at all?

Usually the more your parents trust you the more freedom they will eventually grant you. Always do your best to be honest and trustworthy with your parents. Go out of your way to show them that you can make mature decisions and be trusted with responsibility. You will be shocked at how far it will get you.

    --  My parents are always fighting! - Conflict between parents and
        other family members can be difficult for anyone. In these
        situations, the only thing you can control is yourself. You
        can't change your parents, but you can choose not to yell,
        scream and fight back.

If you find yourself in a potentially harmful situation, or you are just having a hard time dealing with the drama, talk to someone! Anyone will do--a counselor, teacher, church leader; anyone who is outside of the situation and whose advice you trust. Talking your way through a hard time is not only therapeutic, it is a sign of maturity.

"Remember, honest, open and respectful communication is always the best way to combat any problem you will have with anyone, especially your parents," said Covey. "No matter how big or small the problem you have with someone, you won't solve it unless you talk about it. Though it might be hard, talking is important and your relationship will be better off in the long run."

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